Why Being A Better You Is NOT Always The Best Option
by Silvia Pencak
(PO Box 39540, 579A Lakeshore Rd. E., Mississauga, Ontario L5G 4S6)
There’s buzz out there as everybody’s talking about personality tests, strengths, weaknesses, self-improvement, and on and on and on. I wonder how long it will take for people to get tired of constantly “fixing’ themselves.
Don’t get me wrong. I strongly believe in personal growth. Yet, I also know that many are doing it wrong.
There’s time and place for improvement.
There are areas where you CAN improve. You can improve your skills, or learn new ones. You can gain new knowledge or experiences. You can also improve on a personal level – how you communicate with people or manage your anger. You can read more books, visit conferences and seminars and grow at all levels.
Yet, all of the above won’t change who you ARE.
There’s a part of you that will never change, no matter how hard you try.
Who you are when you’re free to be yourself, when you take action or solve the problems. This is where your instincts kick in and lead the path. There are the patterns you follow without even realizing it. You use your energy in certain way. You do some things and avoid the others. You do it without giving it much thought and even if you try to do it differently, you realize that you simply can’t.
It’s so normal to you that you don’t even think about it. This is how you’ve always done it and you just keep doing it.
Sometimes people around you joke about your obsession to have everything in its place or accuse you of being slow to make decisions because you need more information. Not you? How about you changing your mind so quickly that it’s hard to follow – or maybe resisting the change and having to know everything in advance?
Sometimes you might be pushed to change it, but instead of “personal growth” you hit the wall noticing that no matter how hard you try, you just
can’t sustain different behavior. It’s not about what you “know” or “like” or “want”. It’s about what you “do” or “need”.
Let me give you an example. To do my best work I need systems. Everything I do is very systematic. I need structure. If I come to the place where there’s no structure, my first step will be to create it. Only then I can move ahead and focus my energy on other things. Take the structure away or force me to focus on something else without allowing me to create it, and you will have somebody who is frustrated, stressed, without even knowing why. Your “thing” might not necessarily be structure. It might be need for change. Or need for interruption. Or need of information. How about stability?
Occasionally you might wonder what’s wrong with you that you keep doing this thing over and over or you might feel guilty about it.
When you discover the true YOU, suddenly everything starts making sense.
You realize that there’s nothing wrong with you. Who you are is completely FINE! And the thing that’s been driving you crazy all these years is actually a God-given strength that makes you unique and valuable.
Here’s what I want you to consider today…
Is what you’re trying to improve truly something you CAN improve? Or is it something that makes you who you are and trying to change it will actually slow you down, possibly even stop you completely?
Unfortunately, you won’t be able to find out the answer on your own. But the good new is that there are tools out there that can help you strip down what CAN be changed and show you who you truly are – when you are free to be yourself.
Are you ready to start a journey that will set you free once and for all? I’d be honored to support you. First step is on you…Click here
to discover the true YOU!